You cannot make me believe that a child can be this crazy
and NO ONE knew it! Recently I watched an odd movie, “We Need to Talk About
Kevin”. Kevin, like Adam Lanza, the Connecticut shooter in the mass murder earlier today, was mentally disturbed and his parents knew it from
early on but never really dealt with it and instead convinced themselves that
it/he was not really that bad. Kevin, as did Adam, ultimately committed a mass
massacre at school after killing his father and sister at the family home. Life imitating art? Getting harder to tell... Are
we to believe there were no signs with Adam? No previous incidents? Of course
there were!!!
Too many are raising our children to believe they are flawless,
perfect little "angels" and "princesses", nothing is their
fault, a pill will cure all, “no” is not an answer, mediocrity is brilliance,
they are born with a voice and an opinion and that NO ONE has the right to correct
or discipline them. Parents are afraid of their own damn kids because the
government has violated their right to raise their children as they see fit. Children
have been empowered to the detriment of those parents who dare open a can of WHOOP
ASS on a sometimes deserving child! This is ridiculous!
Whether gang-banging and shooting up the hood or mass
murdering at schools, movie theatres or shopping malls in the burbs’, our kids
are crying out for help, for love, for structure, for guidance. Bottom line, we have
a CRISIS in AMERICA
There is no magic answer or some sure fire method to raising
healthy children. But as we have rejected the ‘tried and true’ and discarded
the blue print by which most of us were successfully raised, can we at least deal
with reality and acknowledge that what we are doing is not working?
This is not an indictment of parents. I have not taken on
that role and give MAJOR props to most who have. I can only imagine that it is the
hardest job in the world and I know full well that you can be the best and
still it can all go wrong. There are no guarantees. Be present, be diligent, by
all means be committed and understand that ‘time out’ is not an option. My
concern is that America America
My heart goes out to the families, the community and to a
nation that again has been dealt a tragic, senseless and likely avoidable blow.
Where/How/When will it end? I’m Just Wonderin’…
May there be peace in America…
We've Been Trying to Save the Children for a long time. Enjoy This Oldie But Goodie by the Intruders; Save The Children:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reKynWXzSQ0
Very well said, Ms. Higgi. As I get to know my fourth grade class, I'm thinking of mentoring one of the students after my term ends in January. This is because I see his potential but I know the emphasis in education is not impressed upon him at his home. As a result, in 2-5 years, the potential can be lost or misplaced as gangs and other factors can have a negative influence upon him and overtake him. I'm going to do my best to "reach one and teach one," one child at a time.
ReplyDeleteThis is powerful Helen. Another conversation that must and needs to be had on a national level.
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Until we recognize that this is a country with a violent & macho attitude (continously engaged in war or some similar thought or behavior), unfortunately this may not be the last time we suffer through this type of situation.
ReplyDeleteWe (individually and in the collective)have the tools to decide to address (or at least reduce) violence in all aspects of our society.
What is the sense of having standing (in Christianity) as the hightest order of beings on the planet, if we are unable to do this?
Our failure makes us complicit with blood on all our hands and quite like the animals we say are of a lower order then man.
The only obstacle to addressing violence in our society is for us (individually and the collective) not to do so. judging from our track record it is not something our society really wants.
You are so right Misss Higgi. Excellent points. Good and responsible parenting are the key ingredients that often are not discussed. Social scientists seem not to understand this fact. Far too often parents now want to be their children's best friend. They want to hang out together. Big mama is now wearing booty shorts. Things are not what they used to be. But, where do the young one's learn good parenting skills? Their parents did not receive the type of parenting that I got? This is so sad!
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